Learning to Write

Learning to Write

Blogging is new to me…and writing is something that I have rarely done for any length of time…so I have decided to try my hand and ‘join the crowd’. I have written the odd article over my lifetime – usually for a purpose such as an essay or to answer questions for a course or project. Years would go by in between such writing episodes.

However, one thing I have noticed is how much I have loved writing my friends by email, once I got into it over twelve years ago. It all began with a new love in my life (a long distance one) – that was enough to light a fire under me, at that time, and get me joining the email crowd.

Now, I don’t seem to have such a compelling reason to overcome my hesitation to write about myself. I know that blogging is more often used for marketing products than for writing about oneself (and I do have some products that I would recommend because of what they have done for me). However, for now, that’s not on my mind. What is on my mind is learning to write in order to share what has gone on in my life – particularly about my health – in a way that could help my readers with their own health concerns.

But just because something is a “good” idea isn’t enough to make it happen. I found this out when I next sat down to write. It took me a few weeks to draw something out of me – and so my first blog post came into being. However, try as I might, another blog didn’t come out of me again…until over a year later. Then I pulled a couple of smaller ones out of me, early in the new year. Then another dry spell – although it is probably a misnomer to describe it as “dry” when I hadn’t even come close to getting “wet”! lol

One thing led to another. I changed my focus to creating a CD with my views on health – and it seemed that I had best write about it first, and when I was satisfied with the flow of my ideas, then I would turn it into a CD. Well, nothing flowed…I started a paragraph or two…and then got stuck. It seemed that if I wrote either pragmatically or philosophically about “health”, I became hung up – and even a bit bored.

Along the way, I became curious how my health was in different stages of my life, so I opened up a new page in my computer and proceeded to write all the years of my life down the left margin. Some years, as I was writing down their number, a story jumped right out of me, and I was compelled to write it down, right then (because I had had the idea of writing all the years down – all 73 of them, from 1938 to 2012 – before writing any stories). I soon gave up that idea, and after that, if a story jumped as I wrote its year, I wrote about it right then – when it was still hot. I have never looked back from that moment.

I guess what I learned was that for me, an idea can’t be esoteric – I have to be able to re-live it, whatever that looks like. For me, it seems that remembering what I was doing at a particular time in my life, is a necessary ingredient. That might change at a later stage of my writing, but that’s the way it is – at least for now.

I have been passionate about my health…since I almost lost it…and that’s another story….

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On Addiction – a different twist

On Addiction – a different twist

Maren:  Were you ever addicted?

Interviewee:

Yes – to smoking – and I smoked thirty or so cigarettes a day – which is not too much by some people’s standards – who smoked sixty cigarettes a day.

I smoked steady all through high school. At about age twenty-one, I realized I was addicted to smoking tobacco – which was something I didn’t want (to be addicted to anything).

So I decided to quit. In fact, I decided many times – it took me about six to eight years before I was free. Many funny stories came out of these years – of what it looked like to “quit” smoking. One of the shortest “quittings” took about 20 minutes. I told a group of my smoking friends that I wasn’t going to have any more cigarettes. One of them offered me one and I said, “no”, very definitely. However, in about 20 minutes, desire overtook me and I went and asked my friend if I could have the cigarette he had offered me.

The time between “quittings” – when I was free from smoking – did increase every year of those eight years. I recall my last relapse in my eighth year was a two week period over Christmas. At office parties, and at work, there were a lot of “flat-fifties” (metal boxes with two layers of 25 cigarettes each) lying around like chocolates do in modern-day offices during the holiday season. I was offered several of these boxes – and I succumbed to the free smokes.

Maren:  What made that final quitting the end of it all?

Interviewee:

Well, as I recall, all the old ‘negatives’ came back when I started smoking again for that last time – and I was adamant about getting rid of them.

This was key to my overcoming my addiction – the gains that I saw in a smoke-free life. These were things like: getting my taste back, breath and body free of tobacco smell, no more holes burnt in clothes and furniture, and not the least, having more spending money. Once I was clear about the gains, there was no turning back.

What I learned from my years of failure to quit, was that you don’t “quit” smoking – because when you turn away from something, it suggests you aren’t getting something that you want. Instead, I turned my attention towards what I wanted, which was to get a new and better life without cigarettes. This was not, in fact, giving up anything, but rather, gaining something far more valuable to me than what I was leaving behind.

Now, with all the research and changed social consciousness around smoking, it is gratifying to realize that I made a fortuitously right decision – at a time when I didn’t have any of today’s research to back me up.

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